I am probably the most scariest person you will ever meet and I do a really good job of covering up my fears. Surprising??? Well, Yes, it's true! I hear so many times from others that I exude leadership, I come off very strong and assure of myself and I am all of those things but that's definitely through the practice of eliminating the crippling fear that I've had (since a child) over these last few years. I have been invited places that I shyly decline and use my kids as an excuse because I am afraid of going and just not knowing what is going to happen (crazy I know!!). I also have fear of allowing my children to be away from me, parental paranoia in the flesh! I don't know why because I get extremely irritated when we are together ALL day but at the same time I know that when they are with me, they are safe and out of harms way. This behavior doesn't benefit me or them, at all, I am aware of it and I am working on eliminating fear from my life (in itty bitty baby steps). If you are some what like me or like me completely, let's make a pack to stop living our lives anxiously, anticipating a situation that may never even happen and fully commit to living life in the present through implementing these steps daily.
Just do it. The funniest thing about fear is that you work yourself up so much and you create all of these scenes in your head how it's going to play out and it never ever happens. It's such a waste of time to perpetuate a situation that creates such anxiety only to never take place. I can recall situations where I was completely afraid, for instance flying by myself, once I completed it (just once) I could look at that issue through a rear view mirror (it's completely behind me). Now that I can look back at it, I can see how unnecessary me being so afraid was. Just know that once you "do it" it will not even be a factor in your thoughts or life. The first step is letting go and committing to just do it.
Turn it around. Well what if I am so afraid that I can't "just do it?" (I know I've been there). Try turning your fear around, here's an example of what I use to say: "I am so afraid of creating a blog, there are so many other talented bloggers out there and I am afraid that know one will like what I have to say and then everyone will clown me." So now I won't be writing any blogs, because I am afraid of what others will think- THAT'S STUPID- turn it around. "How stupid would I feel if I didn't create a blog because I am afraid that no one will like what I have to say and that everyone will clown me?"- VERY!!! Flip your fear around and identify why your truly afraid and ask yourself, does that really matter?
Don't feed your fear. When I was afraid of spiders, I talked about it constantly. I let everyone know and it was always a question that I asked when entering a room, "Are there any spiders in here?" (don't judge me). If you really want to move forward, stop participating in your fear, allow things and situations to happen naturally and deal with them accordingly (naturally). Stay in control of the situation.
I am learning everyday to push through my fears because life is too precious to spend it worrying. Often times our fear are subconscious, passed down from someone or something else, so we have to practice consciously recognizing how to eliminate that so that we begin to subconsciously walk through life in peace and not
in fear. I encourage you to release the fear and anxiety holding you back from living life. Step out on faith and see what happens and when you find yourself still afraid ask yourself this question:
1. Is your faith bigger than your fear or is your fear bigger than your faith?
In the comment section on the home page please let me know what your fear is and how you have overcome it (unless you're too scared)
"Don't let your fear of what could happen make nothing happen"
-P.S. I'm sorry this is a day late!