Welcome back from this long weekend and welcome back to the grind of reaching a life filled with consistent progression (remember: no ones perfect, practice can make perfect but my daily goal is to just make progress). In making progress, I recently learned that my finances are need some progression as well. I am not the kind of gyal that goes broke, I spend a little and save a little, if you know what I mean. However I recently learned that my outlook and or relationship with money is very distorted- hear me out, maybe you can relate. I choose not to let money control me (that's what I say) therefore my relationship with money is trying to prove that I am in control and in being in control I splurge, I emotionally make purchases, I get reeeeeaaaallll tight with it, I give and look in the account later, the list goes on and on. I am trying to recreate this relationship that I have with money so that I am not trying to prove myself but better yet be a partner in this relationship (does this sound crazy?!) Here's my method to turning this around so that I can have a better outlook on money all while still spending a little but saving a little.
1. Write it out. Think about money and how it makes your feel or your feelings about it and start jotting it down, let it out!!!. Then take those thoughts and dissect them to see if they have any truth or do you feel this way out of fear. For example, one of my thoughts was (and still is.... I'm a work in progress) that money is selfish, I'm tight with money because I feel that no one will support me (nor do I want to ask for support) when I fall. I feel this way because as a child I witnessed my mother experience a moment that left her financially dependent on people for a short time and I didn't like how they "helped" her. I now put myself in box where all my ducks (coins) are in a row; no one comes in and nothing goes out! I also am not giving nor allowing myself to be receptive to the help (if I ever needed it) from others because I am afraid of how they will "help" me. We contribute to the beauty of life by having a giving spirit, being happy, thoughtful, interesting, healthy, safe, helpful, loving etc. I encourage us all to look at how we really feel about money subconsciously and try to make a conscious effort to view it in a more positive manner! How you feel about money matters just like anything else, good vibes attract good vibes.
"Money is currency and currency is energy"
2. Stop saying your'e broke. We all do it, "I Just got paid and I'm broke", "I don't have it and I don't know when I will" or "I'm robbing Peter to pay Paul!" We all need to create affirmations that change our current outlook on our situation. The more you speak negativity over your life and your finances, you WILL attract negativity (period!). Start looking yourself in the mirror every morning and saying, "I am very happy & grateful that money comes to me in increasing quantities from many sources on a continuous basis" or "I am grateful for what I already have and for all that I receive now. I allow my income to constantly expand and I always live in comfort and joy." sounds silly but this stuff works. How often did someone say something to you that was offensive, "Your dark!", "Your nose is big" , "You're cute for a big girl" and you started to believe it or how often did someone say how talented you are and you thought to yourself, "I am good at that!"-How you feel about yourself and what you say to yourself has power! My youngest sister (Heyyyyy Tiny) informed me last year about how she was onto manifestation (think it, create it, see it, live it) and she basically stated that I am in control of my environment, whatever I want- I have the power to manifest it into existence, I see it a lot with vision boards (check out this article). I encourage you to do the same, stop saying you're broke, envision what you want and manifest your new income into your reality!
3. Live within your means. Check your bank account in the morning before you get out of the bed and at night before you go to bed. What did it say? Listen and follow directions...it's not that hard!
4. Work toward your financial goal. Nothing changes, if nothing changes. I can envision all day me and my family taking family vacations to exotic resorts, our dream home and working from home but if I don't turn my words into actions, nothing changes. It will take time (I know!) but any progress is progress. Revamp your resume, take another course to make you more competitive, start a small business- all of this can bring in more income small or large. 10 years ago my friend told me what she made a year, I was like, "That's what I want to make" #goals and now that I make what she was making (then) my goal has changed. Don't stop setting goals, you're not dead, are you?
5. Find a money/ business mentor. OMGGGG, I have so many Mattieologie , Myliek and Jane Sincero are currently my homies. In having a mentor they basically are a road map (GPS), why get lost when they are there to help you. They know more than I do and I am taking notes and getting rid of the nay sayers in my life (you should too!). You know those people in your life who are watching you, eating popcorn and waiting you to fall on your face, tell them to.....
With that being said, let's not be broke anymore!!! Take your financial situation by the horns, take control and make money are BFF! Create a budget and get to work, dig deep so that you can do all the things that your heart desires. I am learning and growing as my fingers are typing away and I am encouraging myself just as I am encouraging you. So don't think I don't and or won't make mistakes, that's life, the ever constant teacher, like my mentor Jean Sincero mentioned in her book, "You Are A Badass", "When the student is ready, the teacher appears!" I am ready to live the life I wish to create and manifest, so I say to life: "Teach me!"
Comment on the home page how you are getting your money right, let's chat!
