I had a moment the other day, I mean a 3 year old, head back, mouth open & snot rollin'- ugly Betty cry (it felt good; better out than in) moment. When I got done feeling bad for myself and was ready to get up and try
again, the first question that I asked myself was why? Why am I crying. In my head I was replaying the events or the words that lead up to this epic meltdown but more importantly and ultimately I needed to hear myself say why, why all of this? My answer was simple, I felt powerless. Feeling powerless is essentially giving up or giving in- not me (nope!) So of course in my LONG ASS self-help therapy session I began to say, how i was going find myself & turn my need to NOT feel powerless into feeling powerful...after much needed breathing exercises (lol), tissues annnnnd researching, I'm here and ready to share my these 3 steps for going from powerless to powerful, let's go!
1. Detox! Let it out, often times we ball up our emotions or choose not to share our emotions out of fear, when honestly it is healthy to do just that! Say what it is that is bothering you, address who hurt you, acknowledge the impact that it has on you and set the tone for the future; what you will do, what will happen if it happens again, how you will move forward from here on (not looking backward or making the same mistake twice!)
2. Write It Down! No matter if it is concerning your health, finances, relationships, job etc, create a blueprint of how you are making your next move, which in turn gives you the power back that you desire. Figure out which parts of your life need to be "fixed" and how. This is a simple as writing down all the major areas of your life and place them in sequential order of grading them 0-10 (10 being great). This allows you to see the areas that need some fixin', those that need to be checked on periodically and then those that are just fine- know what you want, then start making the necessary changes to get there.
3. Make A Plan. If you can see it, you can do it. Once you are clear on the areas of where you would like to see change, take the power back and change them but be realistic with your expectations. Clear, realistic plans are key!
This past weekend I reminded myself that my journey is a clear indication that I am still on my road to greatness. I am the only one in complete and total control of me, therefore I am the only one who has the ability to limit my greatness. So, no more "pitty parties", although, I know I may find myself crying again (tomorrow or maybe tonight) but hey, that's life. I also know that I won't be doing: accepting or even entertaining the idea of feeling powerless #BoyBye
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