It was all good just 33 days ago (Yes, I am counting!) I mean 2016 was my year and if you've talked to me in the last 33 days I have told you over and over and over again. I just feel like I grew so much in all aspects of my life, I loved everything about 2016- seriously- the good, bad & in between! Then came 2017 and I'm like, "What Thee Fuck!?" I am that OCD kid in class with all of my books in order, pencil sharpened, homework ready BUT everyday Barbara the Bully comes and tosses my life up in the air. I can't tell which direction I am moving in, I am not sure of myself and that sucks! I am usually a well put together-thinker but I have to admit when I am not & right now I am not! And in telling you this I feel helpless and empowered because being honest is healthy & real. So, what is causing me all of this stress? Meet my friend & enemy, change. I mean I've dealt with it before but never like this because it's not really my change, it's other peoples change that is affecting me because I truly love them and if they are in a weird place then I am in a weird place...do you understand what I am saying??? I cannot get on this site of mine and be "filtered" because I am not in real life, I made no mistake in naming my site, "Normal Back Chic" because I truly believe that my life is "normal" and that other women and men go through exactly what I am going through, so I chose to share it in celebrating my/our imperfections not filtering it and only showing the best moments because my worst moments deserve a photo shoot too. So here is my current imperfection, I am dealing with change and it is beating my butt, but I have to grow from it and I have to grow through it. If you're experiencing what I am currently growing through, let's try to do this (together)
1. Ask yourself how much of this is in your control. I am in control of how I respond to change, good or bad, therefore I choose NOT to let my feelings consume me. What side of the fence are you standing on: Pitty or Party?
2. Accept and regroup. The most powerful thing you can do when change is coming through your life without and engineer, go with the flow, accept the things you cannot change (Amen!?) and then regroup. What can you do now that will make it less stressful for you? Maybe it's affirmations, or being around strong supportive friends- DO IT! It's healthy to discuss and to listen to good advice.
3. Celebrate. You probably don't feel like celebrating but believe me, there is always something to be happy about. Although I am feeling the weight of some of my issues there are some really great things going on in my life, waiting for their moment to shine. Find your happy place, go there often!
Seriously, try to get out of your emotions and recognize that this change is going to happen whether you like it or not, so find something to be happy about in this situation- because there is always something to be happy about, right!?
Growing through it,