All of us parents think that our children are the greatest thing since sliced bread, as we should. Then there are those moments when we ask our child(ren), "What in the hell would possess you to do that?" you know how it feels when your kid does some old weird *BLEEP*, as we should. But there are also some moments where you just look at your kid in awe and you pat yourself on the back because you know that it's not what you said but what you've done that created such an awesome soul. It's that moment of realization that they "get it" What is "it" you ask? Being a walking example. Maybe you're being an example of how to respond to not getting what you want or how to save your money. I recently had an "Ah Ha" moment at my son's 3rd soccer game. The fact that it took me 3 games to realize what he was doing is slightly embarrassing but I see it now. As a mom on the go, teacher, entrepreneur and Director/dancer of a company, I must adapt to all environments and situations. Most often times my children are with me (all of the time) so I am a walking example of how to be and do all of the previously mentioned things without looking like a chicken with my head cut off (sometimes). I have never sat him down and said how to adapt to playing on a team with kids you don't know etc. BUT this last game made me realize I (we, my husband and I ) did. See, we were late to signing him up, he met his coach the day of the game and he knew no one. What does my kid do? He walks on the court and gets in position, just like that! He adapted to a new environment with confidence and esteem and that in itself is one of the best tools that I (we, my husband and I) could've ever given him next to the Xbox! I can feel comfortable in knowing that in life he realizes he may show up late, unprepared and knowing no one but that doesn't stop anything....and it never should.
Life is not always going to fit into your pretty little box. There will be times in life where you have to adapt to the new and every changing environment without loosing your cool-make it work in your favor and here's how:
1. Seek to learn something. Adapting doesn't mean changing the situation to fit you, it means fitting into the situation without loosing you. You will ultimately learn something and that is the goal.
2. Believe in yourself. If you instantly begin to feel the lump of "I don't know about this" psych yourself out and choose to think better about you in this situation and the outcome of it. Whatever you think, you create.
3. Take your time. Trying to adapt to a new situation or environment isn't the easiest thing to do (I know) so give yourself some time to adjust. Rome wasn't built in a day!
Intelligence is the ability to adapt to change....
XOXO,
Normal Black Chic