1 + 1 = 2, Simple enough right!? With that being said 1 + 0 could never = 2, what am I talking about!? GOSSIP! There are always two sides to every story and if you only base your understanding off of one person's side your 1 + 0 = 2. Gossip, is the one thing that no matter what is being discussed or who is discussing it, it sucks you in like a aimless tornado. The most dangerous part of gossip is that it is typically one-sided meaning that the other side of who or what is being discussed is not equally voiced or represented which unfortunately isn't fair but most importantly doesn't equate. You just cannot go off believing what one person says, seriously. I, myself have been on both ends of gossip- who hasn't; I've discussed things second hand and have been the individual being discussed (that's life!).
You can't match accusation with accusation!
The idea that gossip will soon be extinct is like asking god for a dinosaur- it ain't going to happen. However, you can reduce the spread of gossip be not participating and I know that is easier said than done but here's how:
1. Be aware. First ask yourself, "Why does everyone share the gossip with you?" or "Why are you always telling someone else's business?" First things first, check yourself- Are you the issue???? The part of gossip coming full circle is real and it hurts! A dog that will bring a bone will carry a bone.
2. Change the conversation. You know that friend who loves to share, and when you see him/her you know they are about to spill the tea. So, before they get started asking who, what, when, where and why or telling you some else's who, what, when, where and why- change the subject or simply state that the conversation is making you feel very uncomfortable.
3. Walk away. If all else fails walk away from the conversation.
As I continue to grow through life, I find it way easier to move past the small things and not to fall into the trap of gossip. Gossiping invites negativity, be positive!
As always, thanks for reading and catching up on my what I'm thinking about Monday's.